Transforming Lives – Matthew

“I come from a pretty big family. I am one of eight siblings, and life at home growing up was really chaotic and stressful. As the eldest, I was expected to look after all my brothers and sisters while my mum and dad were at work. I had to take on a lot of responsibility from a young age, which often caused conflict.

“When I was 18, I discovered that my dad wasn’t my real dad, which was a massive blow to me. It caused constant arguments between my mum and me, and the whole atmosphere in the house was so hostile.

“I started acting out and got involved with drugs which I’m not proud of. That’s when things really began to spiral out of control. I got into a lot of debt, and at the same point, my mum kicked me out of the house. This made me really angry, and I couldn’t control these feelings.

“I spent most nights sofa surfing at friends’ houses. Sometimes I slept over at my Nan’s on her tiny sofa, but her rental contract meant I wasn’t actually allowed to move in. I was homeless. That was a really low point, I felt so lost and worthless, not having anywhere to call home. Everything seemed so pointless and looking back, I realised now that my mental health was suffering.

“Soon I’ll be planning to move out of YMCA and get a place of my own. I like being independent and feel confident about running things and keeping on top of the rent and bills. I am hoping to move closer to my family, friends and girlfriend so I can spend more time with them in the future.

“Being at YMCA has been such a positive experience for me. Through the resilience programme, I discovered what my strengths are and found a focus and passion for fitness. I’m also much more aware of my mental health and know how to care for myself.

My keyworker has supported me in so many other ways, too, from managing money and showing me how to pay bills, to helping me to rebuild my relationship with my mum. I know there will always be someone there I can talk to if I need help in the future.

“The reality is that without these opportunities, I would be unemployed and probably sofa surfing or even sleeping on the streets. Thanks to your support, I was able to change my life for the better.”

“When I first met Matthew, he was unmotivated and had little self-worth. But with the right support and encouragement, he has turned his life around. He is focused on building his career, has made some good friends and is growing in confidence every day. His achievements really are quite remarkable, and it is a privilege to have watched him discover – and realise – his true potential.” Sophie, Matthew’s keyworker

When Matthew first arrived at YMCA, he had no hopes for the future, and his self-esteem was at rock bottom. Thanks to the help of YMCA supporters, we could provide that vital early intervention that turned his life around.

A support plan was created that identified Matthew’s individual needs. This included a six-week resilience programme designed to build his confidence, provide a sense of purpose and increase the likelihood of finding employment. YMCA supporters empower many young people like Matthew by making key programmes like this possible. It’s such an important part of the work YMCAs do.

We are happy to report that we are now working with Matthew to help him find permanent and secure accommodation of his own and help him with the life skills he will need when he is living independently.